WHAT IS YOUR WEAKEST LINK?!!!!!

This morning l learnt a critical lesson while walking to work. Oh by the way, l walk because l choose to. I could get into some public transport but seeing that l don't mind losing afew pounds and staying healthy- walking is just an added blessing. Back to today-walking in the morning. Yesterday l saw a guy go past me like a jet. Today he did the same thing. He got me thinking about comfort zones. If you saw what l saw, then you would know that this man was actually like flying. He was just walking and you could see he was putting some serious thought into it. His arms were moving so fast you would think he was in a walkathlon.

Anyways, he got me thinking about some lesson l learnt about comfort zones. These zones are places you have decided are your limits,Reasons you have given for not doing what you know you ought to do. So l applied that thought today while l was walking to work. I pushed my speed up and couldn't believe the pace l was walking at. Its true. When you tell yourself that this is only how far you can go, then that becomes your comfort zone. You limit yourself until you are willing enough to change your mindset and embrace the reality of change.Once you embrace it, uncomfortable though it maybe, you will welcome it. I am seriously learning that it is all about what you tell yourself. I know because l live it. Most people l know read motivational books or articles with suspicion. Its good to view information with some degree of skepticism. But don't let it get into the way of someone helping you with their experience.Talking about your experience.

Now that you are not getting anticipated results in your goals, have you checked out what your weakest link is? No? I thought so.Identifying your weakest link as you try to reach your goals will help you eliminate what causes rise to it. Our weakest links throw us back to our comfort zones.

The other day l was listening to some guy get interviewed on TV about some weak link in his implementation of some idea, that seemed to have slidden into chaos despite a spirited start. As l sat listening l wondered out aloud,"What is my weakest link when it comes to writing my e-products?" And you know being alone in the house honesty seems natural.So l pointed to the telly and said,"Baby you are my weakest link." I like watching news and all that. But l also love comedy and drama seeing that l am an actress and a trained one at that. The telly though, instead of being a good friend, is what hampers me. Or do l allow it to hamper me? I think the latter is correct.

I am now consciously working on that. How? you ask. By watching what l term as crucial to my development.Its working slowly but surely.

At the end of the day when we lie in bed lets find out what our weakest links are. That alone could jump-start our sometimes tired but critical walk to achieving our goals.

NO LIMO!!! HOW ABOUT THE BUS?!!!

Keeping your word takes work which is effort that we don't want to put in sometimes.

I am beginning to realize this in reality. My desk.... you should see it. I have all these projects l am trying to finish before we close the office. So entering some thought into my blog is actually a sacrifice. But l am now living a reality. Dreams will be just that if we don't begin to pay the price of living them out.

Talking about dreams. Our Nobel Laureate Wangari Maathai has done all Kenyans proud. Not only us but the whole world and especially the girl child. This dynamic woman has put her money where her mouth is.Literally. She has walked the talk. And now as she sits in the presence of royalty and indeed celebrities and everyone wanting a piece of her, l am reminded of what the queen of talk show Oprah Winfrey once said;

"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo,but what you want is someone who will take the  bus when the limo breaks down."

How true.

When you are trying to make a dream translate into reality it is truly trying. Ask me, l know. I am trying to write a paper hoping to get it published in January. The research is not so interesting. The reading and documenting discussions is tough. But that is the price that has to be paid. Honorable Wangari paid a higher one to get to where she is at now. It would be purdent to remember the old saying, No pain, No gain every time we want to get the best yet with short cuts. I am remembering that every moment l live on.

IT IS NOT THE CRITIC WHO COUNTS!!!

 "If you keep THINKING what you are thinking, you will keep DOING what you are doing, and you will keep GETTING what you are getting.

That brilliant statement was made by Dr Robert Antony.This morning it makes alot of sense to me. Its like that statement in the Bible that says, 'Do not worry about tomorrow.' Of course these statements are different. The correlation though comes in when it comes to action. If you keep worrying about how bad things have become in your life you will keep getting chaotic results. So why walk a path of worry while you can throw your cares to God as you do your part in this life?

I am going through a rough patch. Yep. Financially that is. Some friends of mine owe me some green.Promised to pay up but they haven't.I relied on their word which l now realize was as good as a dead door nail.

As l was thinking about it this morning, l began to wonder,"Do some people's weaknesses mirror who l sometimes am?" I think they do. Sometimes people do the craziest things that land them into unbelievable trouble. We look at them and shake our heads in disapproval. Yet most of us go out and find ourselves in that same situation. Only this time, we don't remember that we were there. I have began to show more patience than l did a few days ago. Why? I am in touch with what God is doing in my life. I also like to think that l am in touch with myself. I like it that way because nothing catches me off guard especially my response to situations. It also helps me build my character. If you attempt it, You will begin to realize that you are not Miss or Mr Perfect anymore.

In making your dreams a reality in your life l have learned that this is a very critical lesson. You watch some people fail and fail again as they try to reach their goals. You hear yourself tell your friends or whoever it is that, 'if only they did this they could get out of what it is that seems so difficult.' Yet you don't see the four fingers pointing at you wondering why you haven't been out trying to make something of yourself.

What about when you get impatient with someone who seems to be lazy and complains about everything? Been there so l know. Is this person mirroring you as they talk about their dreams and do nothing about them? Or do they mirror you when they make wrong choices and wonder why everything that seems to be bad is happening to them?

I really appreciate a quote an editor friend sent me that Teddy Roosevelt made about critics. It would help to remember it every time you want to criticize. I know it has helped me.

 It is not the critic who counts: not he man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better.The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; But does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotion; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

Please note the if. If simply means it could happen or not. This statement embodies success not failure. Chances are success will be what will be experienced.

Go ahead. Think outside the box!!!

I am trying to create a discipline where l blog daily. This alone requires effort and commitment. But isn't that what our lives ought to be about especially if we are trying to achieve our goals? That's just a teaser.

Anyways, yesterday was another day when l learned something. If not learning, l needed to recall something l had read.

I am a person who likes to try things out. Positive things. Sometimes when l do and people around me make what you call 'uncalled for comments' it cuts right through me. And trust me, l like to be agreeable with everyone. Okay, is this the part l say l am learning that it ain't possible to be agreeable with all? I thought so. Yesterday l just learned it on a higher grade. I needed to graduate:-) And l did.

The lesson dawned on me as l was being told of someone's catty comment and action of trying to change what they thought l had done wrong. I wanted to go defend why l had done what l had done. Plus why l thought it was right. But as l walked away vowing to approach the person, it dawned me. I keep saying dawn l guess it really did open my eyes to a new light.

Lesson: I don't have to defend myself every time l do something outside the box and somebody doesn't like it. Some people will just never get it. And its meant to be just like that. Ce la vie!!! Even if you do something that is highly positive, they will always see the negative. They will always seek to drag you down.

But, l have many a times abandoned my dreams at the altar of negative thinking because l took a portion of that thinking from someone who really has hell for a life.In the moment l did that,  l always abandoned what kept me going - my passion.

Yesterday, l decided l was not here to please anyone. I will think outside the box. And if you don't like it, well my condolences. But this is not to say l won't reason with you because sometimes someone will see the pit before l do. Just between me and you, rarely is there a pit. It usually is someone trying to pull you down.

So go out  - think out of the box, and let they that shiver in their boots for fear of trying new things enjoy the view:-)