Tuesday, January 18, 2005

Oh brother!!!!!

This is a time to take stock of the year that is just began. Okay that is what l like to do. For me, l don't write resolutions in January. I have them set in September. Like l said in an earlier post, resolutions for me are set on my birthday month. Trust me, l have the whole month to think about them.

Okay so what's the beef? Oh!!! Brother!!! Just let me cry about this. I am not handling my goals very well. Falling back,  that is what the situation is looking like. First, l am sitted here writing this blog. This is 'doing the right thing at the wrong time' scenario. Am very spiritual. Today is a prayer day and l am creating all the excuses l can, to not go. From -  my shoes are too high(really true) and l have a long walk to the church to am l really sure it is today?' questions.

Someone once told me that this is the most critical moment in every project or goal or whatever it is one wants to achieve. Why? I wondered then. Now l know. Its Because,  I have just realized, that l am at a phase where l can either go forward or fall back on my commitments.' There's no gray area here.  It is painful, to say the least.The involuntary guilt  trips l am taking can only be imagined.

So dear me, l have decided to take some advice l have been reading from a couple of my friends on the net. Two things..One:- Don't beat yourself up that there's  nothing left to pick up when you recover from this inactivity coma. Secondly:- There's always room for improvement. No matter how much you fail to make the cut, tomorrow will always be there for you to start again.

Oh brother!!! I wish l can remember this every time l am taking the flight to guilt city. I know that quitters are not winners and winners are not quitters. Now is the time to put that to test and see how goes it. I'll tell you about it later.


I was writing this blog while walking to work today.


I have been thinking about this for a long time. This is especially because of an incident that occured a few days ago. It really was ugly to say the least. But what was even uglier was that the organization involved decided to deny responsibility. It was obvious that they were on the wrong.But instead of realizing that, they took to burying their heads in the sand.

That incident, that would have been prevented had they explained themselves in the first available opportunity, will cost them millions in legal fees.

So what was so wrong with their handling the situation?

They let the media define them. And that is where l come in. These guys didn't come out strong in apology, a contigency plan and whatever else that would have helped them. Instead they allowed people to define who they are. And that is what happens when you allow other people who don't care about your vision, mission and objectives define you.

People define others through their negative comments and curt remarks. You allow them to do so when you stop a very critical project you have going. When you kill that dream because they said it couldn't be done, then they define you.

I am learning that people will continue to define me as long as l live. And l have refused to be defined. If you think l cannot make it because my target is too far, so be it. If you think that my making it is subject to your thoughts or otherwise, that's all good too. Why? Because an opinion like a friend of mine said, is like a shirt. Even a fool has it. I know that sounds crazy but that's just what l want you to keep in mind when you decide to define anyone.

I believe a few people could have good comments that could both edify and lift my spirit. Those to me are important. From them, l will take corrections. But to the rest who the glass is always half full, too bad....seat taken.

So define my dear, but do it with a clean heart . Remember your defining might either propel forward or hold the dreamer back